Commitment

 With so many opportunities available to us at every moment, understandably, it may be difficult to make decisions combined with the follow through of commitment.

Let’s just assume for a moment that you have made a decision and are ready to get things DONE!…but also want to stay on track.

Consider using the the four “P’s” of commitment:

The critical first step to take is to identify why this is important to you.

What is your Purpose? Why is is this important to me?

Then ask yourself, what are the steps that need to be taken to accomplish my goal or Planning? Exactly what needs to be done and over what period of time.

Now, put in place the tools needed to implement or Preparation. What are the first steps that I need to take and what tools might be required to begin.

And, when the going get’s tough…keep going- use Perseverance, or go back and    re-focus on your purpose. This will aid in your re-experiencing the emotions that you will enjoy while taking the steps towards your goal as well as enjoying the journey.

Lastly, don’t make a career out of this. Spend some time on a walk, silent time in a park or in your living room to determine what your purpose is…your “why”. Then get to work. A little secret…it doesn’t need to be a HUGE thing.

What area of your life have you found that you lacked commitment?

 On a scale of 1-10, how important is it to move forward and make a decision or create this new goal?

 Describe what would life look like if you committed?

Avoiding conflict creates conflict

This is one of my favorite quotes that helps life make sense.  When you first read this you might say to yourself, why would I want to be involved in a conflict situation in the first place? Of course I want to avoid it! I am not referring to a fist fight or an argument about which politician that you support. I am speaking of honest communication and what surrounds it.

I have discovered that, in the avoidance of the conflict, conflict often arises. Conversely, engaging with others about positive and negative topics, increases “connection” & trust. Working or living side by side with others in an honest way, builds and deepens relationships. 

Here are some challenges that may arise when avoiding conflict.

-You decide to tell a “white lie” so as not to hurt someone’s feelings—then they find out about it and are angry with you for lying.

-We don’t comment on a situation-a)the other person begins to make up a “story” about why you are not commenting. Often the story in their mind is worse than the original conflict you are attempting to avoid or b) they learn not to trust you because they don’t know what you are thinking.

-We choose to separate from the conflict and hence the person-resulting in a lack of connection and creates a “wall” between 2 people

When you choose to avoid conflict, you are lacking integrity. You are not being honest with yourself or others. You may feel weak or ineffective. Make up stories/excuses about why you didn’t say anything. Suffer.

What conflicts or uncomfortable situations can be found at work?________

 Have you ever been honest even when it is uncomfortable?___________

If so, what was the situation? How did the situation end up_____________

Will you lose more by being honest or by avoidance?___________

You are resourceful

I am so excited to write about how much admiration and love that I have for you! I know who you are and the challenges that you have experienced in your life. It hasn’t been easy but here you are! You have done some amazing things in your life and I am so proud of you!

You have used all of the resources that you could find, create and incorporate into yourself so you could both survive and excel.

You are beautiful exactly the way you are. Sometimes however we need a reminder that there are 100’s or 1000’s of other resources available to us that perhaps we aren’t even aware of yet that could propel us in new directions, to a higher standard or more happiness. As fabulous as you are, you can be even better…feel even better…feel more like “you”.

 Most of the time, we utilize resources more subconsciously which is great BUT how about we begin utilizing and recognizing the resources that we are using and have available to use more consciously.

 Let’s examine this example. You have a project due at work and you often procrastinate and then experience stress when you rushed at the last minute. This is no longer acceptable to you.

Step 1-Understand the task

Step 2-Create a timeline of steps needed to complete the task

Step 3-Look at the typical resources that you use to complete the task

Step 4-Find 3 new resources that will support you in getting the task completed on time and done well

 Here are a few examples of becoming more resourceful that could be used in this situation:

 1-Spend your lunchbreak working on your project for 30 of your 60 minutes. This has given you the reward of getting out of the office and feeling good about what you have accomplished.

 2-When given a new project, get up an hour earlier and brainstorm while running on the treadmill then writing down all of your great ideas after. You honored your body for exercising and have a created new ideas regarding your project.

 3-Ask a loved one to join you to brainstorm, practice your presentation or to critique your plan. This rewards you with increased connection to your loved one & improves your project.

 The pattern that you may notice is that you are using the resources around you that help you enjoy life more by connecting with others, building a healthy body and taking a moment for yourself.

 What are some positive resources that you can use daily?____

What new places can you go to re-energize your activity?_____

Who can join in with you to add new perspectives to a project or to enjoy the process more?______

 What new tools can be used to add fun to your activity?______

 What new way can you describe a challenge that will open your eyes to the possibilities?______